Like everything that comes from God, sex is a perfect gift. Sadly, it is man that ruins the perfect gift by perverting it. Sex was given by God to a man and woman to be enjoyed in the bonds of marriage. PERIOD. Anything outside of marriage is a perversion of this beautiful gift.
Think about all of the consequences that occur from the perversion of this gift from God. Sexually transmitted diseases, children out of wedlock, abortions, divorce, violent confrontations between lovers, emotional disorders, and the list goes on. When sex is enjoyed in the context God intended, between a husband and wife, these consequences are greatly minimized or totally eliminated.
If the only person you had sex with was your husband or wife, there would be no STDs, there would be no babies born to unwed mothers, abortions would be minimal since the largest percentage are by women who are not married, divorce numbers would be greatly reduced, there would be no violent confrontations from people catching their sexual partner having sex with someone else, emotional disorders from people dealing with breaking up with their lover wouldn't exist, and a host of other real life problems from having sex outside of marriage wouldn't exist or be minimal.
I want to encourage those of you that are married to recognize sex as the gift from God that it is and not take it for granted. Other than your bond together in Christ, nothing is more intimate between you and your spouse than sex. It is a gift that you both can enjoy together for your entire married life. I realize that as you get older there are lots of factors involved. A man's sex drive tends to diminish, women go through menopause, health issues, and just being busy dealing with the day to day pressures of children and life. Don't let these or anything else rob you of enjoying this precious gift God has give to you and your spouse.
Let me give you a word of encouragement. At least one night a month, go have a nice dinner and spend the night at a hotel if you can afford it, or at least clear out the kids and spend a quiet evening at home. UNPLUG the TV, turn off the pagers and cell phones, forget the computer, and spend the evening talking, enjoying each other's company, and make love together. DON'T NEGLECT THIS PRECIOUS GIFT FROM GOD.
For those who are single, don't spoil this gift by perverting it. WAIT! In the bonds of marriage, sex is a sweet gift from God. Outside of marriage, it is a sin. It will be well worth the wait and always something that you and your spouse can treasure together. Sex is NOT evil, it is a precious gift from God for a husband and wife to share together.
In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,